Whether you’ve been a mom for 2 days or 20 years, it’s almost a guarantee that you’ve fallen into the number one trap we as parents all make on a daily basis. Comparison.
Comparing yourself with other moms, comparing your kids with other kids, or better yet comparing your kids with each other, we’ve all done it. Starting with pregnancy, even – we compare how we feel, how we look and best of all, how much weight we gain. For example, I would subconsciously (or consciously, I guess) compare how much weight I’ve gained versus all the other pregnant moms I had seen, read about, heard about, etc. Have you seen that skinny pregnant girl on Instagram? She doesn’t even look pregnant!
And that’s just the beginning – once our children hit any kind of ‘school,’ forget about it; our comparisons explode to a whole other level! My son knows the whole alphabet (at 18 months), My daughter can read! (at age 2), or My baby NEVER gets sick! When you hear these things (or see them on social media) you can’t help but fall into the comparison trap, and it’s only natural.
Then, as you have more children, you also start to compare them to each other; their personality, body type, disposition, athleticism, etc.
We must remind ourselves that everyone and every child is unique, and is a blessing. We must stop comparing – first with ourselves, and with our children. We need to be OK with ourselves, and love our bodies for not only what it looks like, but what it’s been through, to give us our babies – self-love. We must also recognize that our children have their own strengths, which may not be the same as others, and that’s OK. So it’s one thing to acknowledge their differences, but just never forget that these attributes make our kids unique, who they are, and that’s why we love them.
*Disclaimer: I am not claiming to be an expert on this subject. I am just a mom, writing about my own experiences.