The Number One Mistake Even Good Moms Make
Whether you’ve been a mom for 2 days or 20 years, it’s almost a guarantee that you’ve fallen into the number one trap we as parents (and deep down good moms) all make on a daily basis. Comparison.
Comparing yourself with other moms, comparing your kids with other kids, or better yet comparing your kids with each other, we’ve all done it. Starting with pregnancy, even – we compare how we feel, how we look and best of all, how much weight we gain. For example, I would subconsciously (or consciously, I guess) compare how much weight I’ve gained versus all the other pregnant moms I had seen, read about, heard about, etc. Have you seen that skinny pregnant model on instagram? She doesn’t even look pregnant!
And that is just the beginning – once our children hit any kind of ‘school,’ forget about it; our comparisons explode to a whole other level! My son knows the whole alphabet (at 18 months), My daughter can read! (at age 2), or My baby NEVER gets sick! When you hear these things (or see them on facebook) you can’t help but fall into the comparison trap, and it’s only natural.
Then, as you have more children, you will also start to compare them to each other; their personality, their body type, their disposition, their athleticism, etc.
But, we must stop!
We must remind ourselves that every child is unique, and this is a blessing. Our child may be slower to learn the alphabet, but may be better at problem solving. Or one may be better at soccer, while the other may be more artistic. So compare if you must, but don’t forget that these attributes just make our kids who they are, and that’s why we love them.
*Disclaimer: I am not claiming to be an expert on this subject. I am just a mom, writing about my own experiences.