Being The New Mom at School
Everyone thinks it’s so hard for kids to make new friends at a new school. But no one really thinks about the parents! Moving to a new house with a new community is hard enough – here are some ways to make it a little easier to meet new friends, for you and your kids.
- Put Yourself Out There. Literally. Get out of the house. Go to the park, the library, the coffee shop, preferably with your kids.
- Bring goodies. Whether it’s a treat everyone loves like Dr Pops lollipops, sidewalk chalk, or an extra ball, if you’re going to the park bring extras to share with potential new friends. Your kids will naturally gravitate towards playing with the other kids. Encourage them to share their goodies with them (ask their parents first before sharing any food, however). When they do, make casual conversation with their parents.
- Ice Breaker. Start by asking the standard questions – How old are they? What are their names? Where do they live? Go to school? Etc. This will open up many more doors and conversations.
- Get Their Digits. Before you leave, make sure to get their contact info. Even if it’s just their name to look up on Facebook. That way you can connect with them to set up a potential play date or invite them to a gathering.
- Call them. Whether you call, text, or Facebook message, get in touch with them within a few days of meeting them and set up a follow up play date. You can invite them to meet you at a public place like the library or coffee shop for starters, if you feel uneasy about having them over your house.
- Grab Drinks. If you’re vibing with the parents, ask them out for dinner or drinks, adults only! That way you can really just focus on your friendship without the kids running around.